Does feeling happy make you feel guilty?

When you do something nice for yourself do you feel like you are sacrificing from another area of your life? When you are making choices that will make you happy, do you have that nagging voice in your head asking, “what will someone else think? “

It is a good thing to be thoughtful of others, to manage our time well and to prioritized. But does it create feelings of guilt, questioning your own decisions based on the opinions of others, and steal from your joy?

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Life is meant to be fun and to feel good. We are taught that life is meant to be hard and we have to struggle to find success. I do not agree with the hard struggle. I have a successful life, I am happy, I do not feel I sacrificed things to achieve this, and I am not ruled by the opinions of others. You can have this too.

Everyone has an opportunity to achieve great things in their life. The playing field is more equal now than it has ever been. There is less room for excuses. It really does not matter where you came from, who your family is, what your background, race, sexual preference, culture, religion etc. you can be happy and find great success. No excuses! Most just do not want to step out and do what it takes to be great. To become the best version of themselves. It is easy to fail.  It takes strength and tenacity to succeed.

I said it does not have to be hard though it is not always easy either. If you want to succeed into your personal greatness you need the right mindset and you need to develop some grit to get there,

So how do you do it?

  1. Stop making excuses
  2. Set your determination and see your future as if it is happening now and become it
  3. Realize that everything you thought was holding you back is what can propel you turn it forward
  4. Everyone has something original and unique to share
  5. Stop being a victim. Be a successful survivor. You are not your painful past. That is not who you are. It is not your identity. It is something that happened to you. Pay attention to the stories you tell when you are developing new relationships. Are they stories of weakness (the victim) or stories of strength (The survivor)?
  6. Every challenge is a new opportunity. How you handle the challenges can show what your mindset is, and how hungry you are to find success in life.

When faced with a challenge some people get depressed and shut down. Instead, open your eyes. If you are not open to new opportunities, you will not see them. They are all around but if you are not open to them you will miss them.

  • Watch who you associate with, this is very important. We are most greatly influenced by the five people we spend the most time with. If your group is all broke and struggling, you will have a hard time finding financial freedom. If your group is negative and pessimistic, you will have a hard time finding optimism. If your group is underachievers, expanding and becoming the best version of yourself will seem out of reach.  
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We, everyone, are not meant to lead average lives. We are not meant to be unhappy, feeling guilt for trying to be happy, or feeling like we have to sacrifice one area of life in order to have something enjoyable in another. You can be, do, or have anything you want. You may just need some help to get onto the path to it. What do you want to do? Be a coach, write a book, speak to an audience, teach others what you have learned or just be happy and have a good life?

Any of these things, and more, are achievable. Investing in yourself with a coach will help bring you to where you want to be. It’s always helpful to have someone in your corner who has walked the path before you.

My coaching will help you develop workable goals, give you an accountability partner, and create a path to success. Contact me today to have a free 15-minute conversation that will help you see where you want to go. Everything I talk about, I have done and helped others do themselves.

Isn’t it time to create the positive momentum you desire?

Let’s talk. 15 minutes can change your life.

Let’s go from average to amazing.

Let’s go from board to exciting period let’s go from average status quo to a leader and influencer.

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Gratitude Will Change Everything

When you consider our world from such a compressed perspective then the need for acceptance, understanding, and gratitude becomes glaringly apparent.

So therefore, it concludes that if you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead, and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of the world. Just that, doesn’t that call for some gratitude?

 If you woke up this morning with more health than illness, you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week because of illness.  

If you have money in your bank, any money in the bank, or even in your wallet, and spare change in a dish some place in your life, you are among the top 8% of the worlds wealthy. 92% of the people do not have that.

So, if you have the opportunity to think as you choose to think, to worship as you choose to worship, and you have a little bit of change in your pocket, and you have got your health, and you have someone who cares about you, then you have an awful lot to be grateful for.

Treasuring our divinity means being in a constant state of appreciation. Looking for occasions to be joyful, to be happy, to be in a state of gratitude.

Every time I find a penny, a nickel or a dime on the street and anytime I bend over and pick it up, I say “Thank you God”, as a reminder of the abundance that flows into my life when I am just walking and breathing.

Treasuring your divinity does not mean that you do not have respect for God, it means respecting the God that is always with you.

                                                                                                                                Wayne Dyer

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                This is a very long quote, I know, but it says so many important things to remember on a daily basis. We are blessed in ways we do not see when we get caught up in our lives. When we are listening to or participating in gossip, when we are watching the news, when we are letting ourselves be upset because of something someone else did. How does that serve us? How does that lead to a happy and successful life? We can choose how we wish to feel, and by choosing we are directing the path that our next hour, day, week and life will go. I choose to be happy, grateful, and joyful. Even when things to do not appear perfect at the moment, it is only a moment in time, and it will pass.

                We can deliberately make our next moments be different, we can direct the course of our lives. Sometimes it takes a reminder like what is written above. Sometimes it just takes slowing down and noticing how we are feeling and recognizing that it is a choice how to feel.

                People struggle with depression and anxiety. People get too wound up in what is going on around them and they take personal ownership of it. They accept this as the only way they can view life, but you have a choice. You can change the direction.

In the study of Dr. Joe Dispenza and the Heartmath institute, they have discovered scientifically that spending 10 minutes in gratitude changes the electromagnetic energy of the heart. It increases the bodies chemistry to increase immunities. Happy people are not just lucky. They are healthier, they attract more positive into their lives, they see more opportunities and take chances on them.  

                So, my challenge to you this week it take 10 minutes each day and focus on gratefulness. It does not have to be anything specific; you can keep it general. Just put on some soft music and your headphones and feel good for a few. As you go along, as this becomes a regular practice in your life, you begin to see or feel things that feel good to you. Practice every day for one week and keep a small notebook to journal how you feel. Write down how your days goes. You will notice a shift after only 4-5 days.

                After one week, come back here and share the alteration you are beginning to notice in your life.

  • Do you see more beauty in the world around you?
  • Did you see your first sunrise or sunset in a while? Really notice it.
  • Are your conversations changing to be more positive and upbeat?
  • Did you laugh more?
  • Did you feel more love and/or compassion towards others?
  • Did you notice that you attract more upbeat people to you?
  • Were you in a little less pain?
  • Did you sleep a little better?

Share with us what has changed. Then I encourage you to take 10- minutes a day for 30-days. When you are starting something new, focus and see it before hand how you want it to go. A phone call, a conversation, your drive-in traffic.

I look forward to hearing how your week went. Please like share, and comment.

If you want to move forward into a happy, joy filled, and productive life schedule a free call with me to set this forward momentum in your life. Click the schedule button, go to my contact page, or email me directly and use the subject “I want to be happy” ashleyjspurgeon@gmail.com