Do Not Talk Yourself Out of Your Dreams

I heard a talk years ago from a man who researched end of life regrets. He visited with seniors in nursing homes and hospice care. The number one regret expressed was not what they could have done for others; it was what they did not do for themselves. They spent their lifetimes sacrificing their dreams to take care of family, community, church, and as they filled their life with serving others, they set aside their dreams. If they had followed their dreams, they would have been an even greater service, or had a larger impact, to those they crossed paths.

Les Brown speaks of imagining you are in your death bed. What surrounds you is all your dreams. They point to you and tell you, “When you die, we die with you.”

So, what are your dreams? What have you pushed aside that you will later regret not doing? What great vision will die with you that should not? What may be the one thing you can leave as your legacy?

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Many times, a dream is an inner desire that does not ever get expressed. Those around you do not even know you have this inner driving passion. Instead, we set it aside to take care of and help others. All the while, our dream can be the one thing that can change a life, influence many, or shine a light that will never get turned on. People often say they do not know what their passion is. I do not believe that. They are comparing themselves to others and the success they see others have. You do not have to have a dream someone else has already fulfilled. Your dream is uniquely your own. It is there you have just buried it. When you connect to who you are, your God force energy and divine spirit, it is there. It may just be a planted seed that you need to water so it can begin to grow into fruition.

We talk ourselves out of our dreams by focusing on our limitations, our handicaps, our lack of education, our race, culture, or financial inability. Those are just excuses, so we do not have to commit to ourselves because we are scared to try something new and different. 

We run through our minds all that people will say to us. You are not smart enough; you are not some big named celebrity, who will want to listen to you? You do not have the education those others have. It is easy to find someone who will support our doubts. You need to see the vision of what God sees. You have this inner pull to be more, so you must begin seeing the future as that reality.

As you begin, or if you have been working at the dream for a while, resistance will show up. People will always be there to tell you why you cannot do something. People will openly share why you cannot succeed. They are coming from their fears, places of limitation, and the blocks they have erected in their life. The opposition is not a truth for you unless you allow it to be.  Many people are pessimistic when what you need most is optimism and encouragement. Unfortunately, most discouraging people are those closest to you. They do not want to see you hurt and disappointed.

You have got to be hungry for that burning desire in your gut. You must fortify yourself and believe you can have your dream. It would help if you remembered the death bed of regret. The excuses you use to talk yourself out of something can be flipped on their head and used to build something amazing. The excuses you use to talk yourself out of something are often the very reasons why you should be working towards it.

Following a dream is not an easy thing to do. Sometimes the road is lonely. Sometimes you must make sacrifices to achieve the beginning. You must keep a clear vision of who you are becoming and learn to no longer focus on who you were.

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I wanted a better life. I was broke, almost homeless, beaten down by an abusive relationship. I knew my life should mean so much more; I did not know how to get there. So, I left everything behind and ran to where I could begin building the life I knew I deserved. Literally, I left everything behind. I left Tennessee with my clothes and a laptop computer and moved to Houston, where I could find opportunities and begin building what my vision is. The new era was an extremely hard time for me, but it was the sacrifice I had to make. The most amazing results came of it. By doing what was right, following my dream, I taught my kids by example, to step out and follow theirs as well. My oldest daughter graduated college as Magnum cum Laude, my son stepped out of special education, and he received the A/B honor roll. He is now entering AP high school classes next year. I am now working toward writing a book and being a motivational speaking worldwide to help encourage people to grow into their dreams and be the best version of themselves.

Your one small act can encourage many to be so much more; to do great things themselves. That is how you leave a legacy. Do not talk yourself out of your dreams. Begin building them today. Create a vision board, start writing a script for your new future. Talk as if it is already happening. Start small. When you see one success, then get a little bigger. Build the life you can be proud of what you accomplish. When it is your time to pass, your spirit is at ease, knowing you lived the full life you should be living.

Feeling Stuck? Find Inspiration

Do you know those days when you just feel blah? Nothing of interest crosses your mind. You know in your thinking mind that everything is going alright, you just do not feel inspired to do much. We all have those days.

As a writer working on a book, I wish to be inspired every day. Inspiration does not come from the thinking mind. The mind can have good ideas, maybe some response to a blog post. But true inspiration comes from the spirit. Your divine spirit is part of all else, the universe, everything, and spirit knows what will uplift others. Why? Because spirit does not just reside only in you. It is so much larger and has a connection to all else.

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In our perspective of space and time, we as humans see everything with boundaries. Spirit does not reside within those boundaries.

If you are seeking inspiration, instead of looking for it, quiet the mind and just seek clarity. When you meditate, do not start with a plan to ask for anything or make something happen. Just take a few minutes to quiet and reside in the love of the spirit, connect to the all-consuming love of God. Feel it and merge with it. If you must do something because your brain works that way, see yourself in a boat on a river and pull in the oars. Just let the current take you downstream towards tranquility. Just watch it, do not evaluate it, just flow to calmness. Meditation will raise your energy vibration to align with your divine spirit. Still, do not try to do anything or ask for anything. If images or thoughts come to mind, just sit with those and enjoy them.

After ten, fifteen, or twenty minutes meditation is over. Spend a few minutes enjoying the peaceful feeling of connection. Think of one simple thing you enjoy. Peacefulness, Fun, or clarity, for example. Now you are clearer.

Inspiration has a clearer path to flow to you. Your energy is higher, the blah feeling is gone, and you just feel good.

When we try to accomplish everything on our own, it can get frustrating, stagnant, and tiring. When we tune into our divine selves, the ease and flow feel so satisfying. By aligning, you do not feel you are going through your day alone. You now feel what is always there. Now you are tapped in and know it.  

You may feel inspired to take a different path to work and find you missed a traffic pile-up. You may have an inspiration to stop at a certain store just to find something you have been wanting. You may feel an inspired pull to have lunch somewhere new and have a great, unexpected conversation. Finding inspiration is not something we do; it is something we allow in.

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How do you know inspiration from your divine spirit? You feel it in your gut, your solar plexus. You feel it with your emotions. Spirit will always guide you to a higher emotion or feeling. If you do not feel good about something, a thought, or idea, turn the other way. If you are following the spirit’s prompting, there will be an ease about the direction you should take. Going with the flow is called, “Taking the path of least resistance.”

Meditation to get into the right alignment is a daily practice. Just like getting dressed, brushing your teeth and hair, take a few minutes to connect with who you are as spirit before you grab your phone and connect with the world. Your days will go much smoother, enjoyment will present itself much more often, and clarity of ideas and inspiration will be there for you.

Have a Blessed Day

Love & Blessings,
Ashley J Spurgeon

Find a Spark of Joy

I look for joy everyday. After learning that a joyful life leads to dreams coming true I do not want to live any other way. Since I have seen this truly happen time and time again in my life I look for reasons to be happy. Here is an example of finding a spark.

I had to run to the grocery store during my lunch break today. As I was getting out of my car I heard some rather loud music. I didn’t really pay attention to what it was. My first though was those people who have very loud stereos and think that everyone would like to hear what they are listening to. That is annoyance and is old programming.

As I got closer to the store I thought it was coming from some outside speakers. It really was nice music. Instrumental recent pop songs. Actually quite pleasant and I thought that was really a nice thing for the store to do in these days of covid. I even looked for speakers but soon realized it was not the store. It was two guys in the parking lot. One was masterfully playing an electric violin and the other held a sign.

In this time of unheard of amounts of unemployment and struggle, food rationing and hardships, these guys were out bringing joy to the masses. I took this as they are there for my en-joyment. I had such a big smile on my face. I know they were inspired to be there. Maybe they were trying to think of a way to make money. Well they were obviously doing what they enjoy doing but it was still work. The guy playing had sweat dripping off of his nose and streaking his face, while his shirt was plastered to his back. Seeing his face you could see he was doing what he loved doing.

In the times of terrible hardship these people are working, out in the hot Texas sun. Finding innovative ways to make money to pay their rent and buy food and at the same time bringing joy to so many people. Everyone around was smiling. You can tell by their eyes shinning over their face masks.

I am really glad I was there at that time. This is what letting inspiration lead you can do . I didn’t even turn on the radio on the way home. I just basked in the good feeling of joy that radiated from me.

Would you like to find events like this in your life. Would you like to turn off the worry and turn on the joy. I am glad you are here. You are in the right place. Subscribe to receive updates and you will find inspirations in your inbox. Welcome to the community.