Eliminating Stress and Limiting Beliefs

We are faced with a whole new level of stress right now. You know you have a grand vision and big dreams, but this gets in your way. Your limiting beliefs are tearing your confidence down. Believing you are you were not who you can be, will be is stopping you from making the progress you want.

Join the three-day, self-paced mini course. This course will discuss:

Day 1:
Coping with stress.
Recognizing the symptoms
The effects it has on your world
Techniques to turn things around

Day 2:
Limiting beliefs and BS Rules
Recognizing the negative beliefs
How to release and rewrite your beliefs
Seeing what your influences are and making adjustments

Day 3:
Carrying around your past
Why this is holding you back
Seeing a grander vision
Becoming the best of YOU

This is a small but powerful course to get you thinking differently so you can reach your goals and build your dreams. Each day is no more than 15 minutes of your time, because I know everyone is busy.

Coping with Stress Mini Course

We all know about the effects of stress. It damages relationships, it clogs up your mind, it destroys your health. It is important to learn how to minimize or if you can illuminate as much stress as you can. This can be challenging because new stress is always a rising and even more the old stress keeps a good foothold into our mind.

Every animal has stress response, It is usually called the fight or flight reflex. When a deer and antelope or gazelle all the sudden find that they are being chased by a large cat this triggers the fight or flight reflex. For the animal this may last about 15 minutes until they realize that the threat is no longer there they go back to grazing.

Unlike the deer, people can live in stress state for hours, days, months, even years over one event that can keep coming back and every time we think on it our stressors create the adrenaline that floods body. The emotions rage and it takes over our mind, our bodies, and our whole day constantly repeating itself as often as we would choose to think about it

So, how do we let go of something that is really bothering us? If we let a stressful situation be a major part of our thoughts long enough it will start to turn itself into part of our personality. It molds how we react to situations and people when similar situations or words come up again.

I know previously in my life all someone had to do was mention my ex-husband or his name, which was Jim, they could be talking about somebody else but the old feelings to fear, the hatred, anger and negative self-talk would just start rising up again. The adrenaline would pump into my system and that would be the only thing I could think about over the next few hours or more.

In this mini-series we are going to talk about some ways to move past the stress. I am not going to tell you to forget it because our memories are always with us. but we are going to look at ways to react differently to think about life differently and to move towards our future instead of living in our past.

3 part Mini-series $39.95

What does it take to succeed?

Dreams can be a funny thing. Sometimes it is a passing thought, and others when realized can become a burning desire. The difference lies in how we see our ability to see them come true. Honestly, we are only limited by ourselves and our imaginations. If you want to have a dream turn into a reality, you have to take some action, be willing to fail and get up again, and to see your vision long before you see the reality.

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95% of people never pursue their dreams. Not the big, life-changing ones. They talk themselves out of it. People are born, get an education, get married, have a family, work a job, retire, and die. This is safe but has no passion. Why do people do this? They are afraid of what other people will say and they are scared to fail. I would rather fail big than never try at all. There are many things I have tried to do that did not succeed. Why did my ideas fail? Because I did not try as hard as I could have. I gave up before everything was even in place.

I wanted to find a business that I thought my husband and I could do together. So, I decided to have an event planning business. Yes, weddings, anniversaries, and Quinceaneras. I sank thousands of dollars into the business, we went to expos, I took lots of business classes, and I was listed on sites where people could find us and ask for quotes. The truth though was that my heart was not in it, and I was so afraid of failing, I didn’t even give myself a chance. After one year and little inquiries into our services, I folded the business. Threw away all my materials and decided to go back to the drawing board. As soon as I did that the quote requests started coming in. I have heard it said that many people overestimate the first year and underestimate the third.

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At the time I was spending to much time worrying about what other people thought, seeking approval (which never comes), and hoping that the big dollars will just fall into my lap.

Afterwards, I started focusing on what it takes to truly succeed. I found that I first must find success within myself and my personal life, my inner life before I can be a part of the percentage that finds success in career, love, life, health, and finances.

Success is not something you obtain; it is a lifestyle.

I now approach life very differently. I seek my peace and inner harmony first. When I am full because I have taken care of who I need to be (for myself and not others) Then I have what I need to give to the world. This brings me a lot of joy. I no longer feel the hard struggle. I learned to care about what I think of myself, and not care what others are thinking of me. If I know that I am doing my best, then what other people think does not matter.

I found a great appreciation for what I have now. I found that when I was always wanting more, I did not see that I often had more than I thought. As I learned to appreciate what I do have, more was free to flow into my life.

I embarked on my writing, speaking, and coaching with a greater idea of what it means to find success in life. I now have the passion to fully follow a dream and see success. Both personally and in my business. I changed my focus from what I can get to what I can give. The Universe is abundant, so I released my worry and focused on the people I serve.

The biggest lesson I learned about following any dream is that you must just start. Take the first step, then the second. When times get tough, push through. Too many people throw in the towel as soon as things get difficult, challenging, or hard. Success comes to you when you realize you have climbed over the wall that was stuck in your path. When you look back and say to yourself, “I did it!”

So, what is your dream? I am asking about the big one. What is the burning desire in your heart to create something life-changing, people moving, monumental? It may be that you would love to run a marathon, but you are not a runner. Maybe, you would like to work for yourself, but you have never done that before. The possibilities are as endless as our imaginations. If you want to be a part of the 95% who follow a dream, it takes strength and tenacity to reach the 1% who succeed. You must become bigger than you have ever been to before. Bolder, stronger, and live life with determination.

The nice part is that you never have to travel your path alone. In every big endeavor I have had in my life I had a private coach to help me along. When I was growing up in dance, we had coaches, known as teachers. Mine was excellent. When I played the flute for years, I had a private instructor, he was my coach for years that helped me surpass myself and make superior ratings at the various competitions. Even now, I have a coach to help me take the next steps that I am unsure of. This is the best investment I ever made. And, it is one I will continue to make throughout my life. Encouragement from friends and family is not enough. They mean well, but they also tend to hold back. They are afraid that you may not succeed, and they do not want to see you hurt or disappointed. That is the angle their advice will come from. A coach has walked the path you are currently walking, or one similar and is more objective than family.

For a short time, I am offering Free strategy calls. If you have a dream and what to know how to get on the right path, or you have hit a block and what to get past it, then click the button below and let’s see if we can work together to see your dream realized. It is important to have someone in your corner to help you get past your own limiting beliefs and how you hold yourself back. You need someone who believes in you and your dream.  This is not a coaching session, but a strategy call. Schedule your time now because this offer will not last long, and times fill up fast. You will not run the marathon of you do not put on your running shoes.

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Succeed and Love Your Life

Never, in our lifetime, have we seen such rapid change than what is happening right now. Business is changing. Are you changing with it? Are you able to keep up, or do you feel a little lost? Do you feel that no matter how hard you try others are passing you by?

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Some are succeeding and some feel lost in the confusion. The biggest secret is, that most do not see, is that successful people have a coach in the background. So, let’s look at what a coach does, and you decide:

  1. Successful people have someone in their corner who is objective, lend accountability, and wants you to succeed as much as you do.
  2. A coach will lend a hand in you becoming the best version of yourself.
  3. A coach will strategically bring you past your beliefs and limitations that are holding you back.
  4. A coach helps you to build momentum

So, what is holding you back? Do you think hiring a coach is too expensive?  You will find that this one step will show you the greatest ROI (return on investment). You cannot afford not to.

Do you think all coaches have to be big named celebrities and thus pricy? No, a coach is often someone a few steps ahead of where you are now. Someone just further ahead to know what you are going through right now, and still remembers the struggles, obstacles, and success.

Coaching can be short term (one to three months) or longer (Three to twelve) depending on your objectives.

Every day you put off the decision to further yourself and your goals by bringing on a coach, the further away you are from your dreams of business, financial, and freedom success.

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Let’s have a chat. Let’s see how a coach will be able to help you move along your path at much greater speeds. Let’s see how good it will feel to have some momentum because someone with know-how is in your corner.

Let’s have a 30-minute free strategy session and see how we can get you on the fast track to your dreams.

Finding your passion

Everyone wants to be passionate about something. Finding it can be a challenge though. It does not have to be. If you have something that stirs you when you think about it then your passion is in there somewhere. You just need to dig a little deeper.

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I knew years ago that I wanted to be a speaker. I wanted to see that “ah-ha” moment on people’s faces when they just realized or remembered something great about themselves. Mostly that they do have greatness within them.

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I love helping people dig deep enough to follow the path that leads to the dream. That is why I became a coach, then developed into speaking. Now, speaking is only virtual, but it is still there. If you are ready to embark on the best season of your life, but you are not sure what that entails, I am your girl.

Let us have a conversation. That is so easy, and it is fun. We will discuss what your dream may be, what may be blocking you, and how to formulate a workable plan to move you to your vision. First, we need to get past all your self-doubt and the ways you may be unconsciously holding yourself back.

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Click the button to schedule your free strategy session. We will either meet through Zoom or phone call. Your preference. But do not delay. How many years are going to pass by where you will have to say, “I should have done more?”

On a Simple Quest

Life is an amazing adventure, or it should be. If you do not feel like yours is taking you to new places and new heights, you can ask yourself, “WHY?” Do you think that this adventure needs to be something huge and momentous? It doesn’t have to be, but it can be.

Most people have an idea of a simple joy in life. That is what they desire. Limited stress, drama, and problems. This is attainable. To pull out of the chaos, fear, depression and anxiety.

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Other people desire something much larger. They want to make an impact on the world, leave a legacy, and even make a name for themselves. Neither is right or wrong. We are all unique individuals and our desires are just right for us. We should not try to compare our journey to that of another. Theirs may be much bigger or smaller than what we want. And that is ok.

But, do you even know where to start this adventure?  

Let’s look at some steps you can take to begin your personal adventure. Or as I call in my upcoming book, your “Joy Quest.”

  • Begin each day with a feeling of gratitude. This is really one of the most important steps. When you are thankful something it means you have received something. How do you feel when you have received something you have been wanting? Your heart feels light and happy. Your heart feels full. When you can recreate that feeling then you are in the right mode to receive more of what you want. Each day should begin this way. Before you mind is stirring over emails, texts, news and social media. It is also very simple to get into this frame of mind. In fact, it is so easy that you can do this through out your day to realign with your heart and who you are spiritually.

All you must do is take a few minutes. Sit comfortably in a quiet place and a comfortable position. Close your eyes for a few minutes and just rest in a feeling of quiet. Take a deep breath and feel the breath go straight to your heart. Breath slowly in and out and each time feel your heart expand.

Next, feel the love of your divine spirit emanating from your heart. Feel the loving energy of your spirit grow and envelope you. Then feel it expand further.

Finally, think of a time where you were happy, when you were in a beautiful place, or you felt the love of a person or pet. Find a good feeling where you were very grateful in that moment. Now bring that feeling into your heart and lock it in. Take another deep breath into your heart and see this feeling of gratitude setting itself in a place in your heart.

This is so simple, yet affective. You can do this anytime and anywhere.

  • Get ahead of the emotions you do not want to experience.

When you have a thought, you have an emotion attached to it. The emotion will be a response to some past event or experience. It does not have to be a continuation though. So much of our daily life is run by our emotions from the past. But what if that does not serve who you want to be now? It does not have to be a repeat. We can rewrite it or tell a different story, instead of living the familiar past.

When you let your thoughts and emotions run their course, they can disrupt you whole day or even a week or more. In this we are living by reaction only and do not have very good control of being who we wish to be. Once we feel an emotion, if you do not take a conscious effort to work with it to our benefit, it will begin to build momentum. If this thought or experience is troubling to you, then you want to get out ahead of it, before it builds momentum.

Imagine that someone said something to you that upsets you. What do you usually do with this? You think on it more, feel sad, hurt or offended. Now it is beginning to take root. You will feel it in your gut and in your heart. As the feelings build momentum, your thoughts begin churning around it. It can be like getting stuck in a whirlpool. It is all you can think about and if you step back and look at it, you will see it growing. We do not want to get to this point. It really does not feel good.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself to stop this in it’s tracks and return to a forward momentum. The direction you wish to go in.

  1. Is what that person said true about you? (Probably not)
  2. Do they know you well enough to say something like that? (Probably not, no one knows the deepest part of you)
  3. Are people around you reacting based on how you have allowed them to act around you?
  4. Can you see deeper into them to see that maybe it is something within them, and not you, that caused this hurtful or upsetting experience? (Chances are this is the root of it)

I had an experience like this with a past co-worker. I realized once I thought about it that I was the only person in the office that she felt safe sharing her stress with. When I though about everything that was going on in her personal life it was not me that was upsetting her. I was the one she felt she could lash out at. You know ”misery loves company.”

The fact of the matter was that I would no longer let her push my buttons. I was going to react differently. I was going to feel good because I choose to and not react based on how I had in the past. Normally this would consume me for days. Now I get to it in the beginning, separate from it and not let the momentum build.

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  • Do one thing everyday that leads toward your dream. Especially on the days you do not feel like it. A dream does not happen on its own. It needs to be built on every day. If you feel you are stuck in an unmotivated day, that is when it is most important to push through. It does not have to be anything big, just something. If you take a day off, then you will take more. If you miss a day you can set your dream back months, or you may miss an important opportunity.

There are some mornings I do not feel like meditating. I do it anyway. I reminding myself that I will have a happier, freer flowing day if I just take ten minutes. Some days I do not feel like working. But then I sit back and remember my dream. How good the ease and flow of life I will have when it comes into fruition.

Do not rely on your friends and family to help motivate you. They will be the first to say, “Take a day off, you deserve a break.” This is where a coach is so helpful. Even when you are taking on the phone, through video, or by email, they are in the back of your mind helping to hold you accountable for what you know you should do to keep your momentum going. When I have a day where I do not feel like doing anything, I think I can write one more article, I can write one more chapter, or reach out to one more potential client. Once I have started, I feel so much better about myself. It does not have to be a giant leap, but it can lead to the next great step in your journey.

So, today I am keeping things simple. Three easy action steps to move you in the direction of your Joy Quest. This is a journey never completed, but always growing. Life is mean to be enjoyed. The choice is yours.

If you feel stuck and cannot find the first steps; or if you have taken the first steps and are not sure where to go from here, then schedule a free 30 minute call with me to see what we can do together to get your momentum heading in the right direction. Only 30-minutes of your time to begin a new life of joy, happiness and seeing your dreams manifest in your life.

If you feel that you are an old pro at this but need help creating a new plan to get to the next level then please schedule a one-on-one coaching call. We will meet once a week for four weeks to begin. Let’s kick it up and create the amazing life you were meant to live. Let’s see how we can reach your goals, manifest what you desire, create something spectacular. You have greatness within you, you just need a helping hand pulling it out.