Happiness is What People Really Want.

We see people wanting more money, love, power, influence, and better health because they believe this is what they need to be happy and live joyfully. Yes, you may feel happiness initially, but eventually, these feelings fade, and then you want more. The reason for that is because everything we are aiming to bring us happiness is from external sources.

As long as we are unhealthy in our spirit, thinking, and emotions, we will not achieve that level of joy we seek. We have trained our whole life to look outside of ourselves to identify how we feel, and this is backward. What we truly want in life, happiness, and an overtone of consistent joy, will never come to us from anything outside of ourselves.

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Even when we feel bad, we attribute those feeling to an outside source. Someone said something or did something. I am having a bad morning because that idiot cut me off in traffic. No, you had a startling moment because you someone cut you off. To continue to feel bad because of others and situations is your choice and only your choice.

From the moment we wake up in the morning, we do two things that will keep us stuck as we are. First, we think about a problem in our life. Or we start to replay an old conversation and create a response to it, and it was not even a good conversation. It was a conflict or differing opinions. But it starts your day by thinking about a past situation and seeing how you could have responded differently, which creates depression. Or we wake up in the morning thinking about the bill that needs to be paid, the work schedule, or seeing someone you do not care to experience. These things have not even happened yet, and you are living them as your now experience. Why? Worrying about the future creates anxiety, and in reality, there is a good chance that the situation will not be as bad as you are creating it in your mind.

At least 90% of the time, we live unconsciously. Living unconsciously is not paying attention or being aware of what is. We go through life thinking about the past or worrying about the future, but we are not fully aware of the right now. The only way to live consciously is to be aware of right now. Your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Not about what anyone else has done to you or will do to you, just focusing on yourself. You are experiencing yourself at this moment in time. Having this focus is a challenge for so many people and not being able to do this leads to problems, ill health, and unhappiness.

When you learn to live more consciously, you will see a shift in your life. You are less likely to react to people and things around you. You will stop giving over your personal power to external forces and take control of the direction you want your life to go in. It does not matter who you are or what you do. You can be a janitor or a CEO. You will not find true success in life and living until you begin to take this personal responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

At first, this can be challenging. You must do personal evaluations throughout the day to see how you are thinking and feeling. Are your thoughts and feelings coming from within yourself, or are you allowing the external environment to lead you like a puppet?

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As soon as I wake up, I have started a practice to ask myself, “Who do I want to be today? Do I want to feel troubled or content?” It is my choice at any moment. I also ask myself what I am thinking. Is it from the past or the future, and is it relevant to what I need to live right now – in the present moment? Am I focused on the present? If not, then why not?

I am as human as everyone else, so my practice of living in the present can be taken over quite easily with living unconsciously. I find myself reacting to people and situations. The closer they are to me, the easier I find myself reacting to them. I also do not like who I am when that happens. So, I have learned to take a few moments to pull back. To recognize what is happening. Not allowing myself to be a puppet to others, situations, or my well-trained unconscious mind and emotions. I am learning to take control.

An amazing thing happens when you begin to do this more often; When you choose to be conscious of what is right now. Life starts to smooth out. Better situations, more interesting people and greater opportunities present themselves. They may have always been there, but we were too tied up with our thoughts and emotions to see that they were there because we live an unconscious life. We walk around, asking, “Why doesn’t anything work out for me?” Well, you have to learn how to open your eyes, be aware, feel better.

It is not an easy practice to begin. Your body is like an untrained animal. When you want to quiet your mind down, it will begin thinking, “I need coffee, I need to go to the bathroom, I wanted to watch the news, I need to make this phone call.” The body is conditioned to moving through life unconsciously, and for the sake of ease, it wants to continue to live this way. You have to train it to focus, sit quiet, and let it know you are in change. I used to set reminders on my phone throughout the day to take a moment to be aware. I would tell my brain to take a short break, and I would look around and appreciate what is around me. Focusing quiets the inner conflicts; this brings the mind in check, like breaking a horse. You are teaching your body and mind to sit.

The more you do this, the better you will feel throughout your day. You may still react to someone, but you will catch yourself sooner. You can easily shift course. How many times did someone say something you did not like? You spent the next hour, day or week, playing out conversations and rebuttals in your mind—what a waste of time of joy that you could have experienced instead.

So, my challenge for you today is to begin to train the beast within. Take a moment to sit and listen to the wind. Hold a warm cup of coffee and enjoy the feeling of warmth. Look up and just let your mind float with the clouds for a moment. You will find that nothing is lost in that moment of quieting yourself, but a lot can be gained.

If you want to know more, I am offering pre-orders of the book “Joy Quest: A Journey to true Happiness. Click the button below for the pre-order discount price. The book will be released in November 2020.

Discovering Your Joy Quest

My passion project for the last year has been writing my latest book, “Joy Quest: The Journey to True Happiness.” I am happy to say that it is almost complete. I am plugging away at the final edits and uploading as I go. Joy Quest is a big accomplishment that I hope and pray will touch the lives of thousands.

I started by contemplating how my life was so good. Not that I mind it at all. Just the opposite. I am so appreciative and grateful. My journey began as I sat on my back porch and observed everything that has manifested in my life. I have everything I want. I have a beautiful home, a loving and supportive relationship, my children living with me, my dog, and a job that I created out of my desire to help people. My question was, how did I get so lucky?

I found out that luck has nothing to do with living a joy-filled and abundant life. Living in appreciation and gratitude has a lot to do with it—that and faith. Faith believes in something that you cannot see, smell, taste, touch, or hear, yet. I found that when I discover a desire, something I really want, I do not doubt that I can have it.

I spent the last year studying, learning from all of the teachers who teach these principles. I knew that if I can do this, having the life I dreamed of, others could. I went in search of those who had already found how to put the incredible into words. I found so much more than I originally expected.

You can have the life you want. You can create your reality. You can heal from past pain and have a happy life. But it takes some work on your part. I know people do not like to hear that anything takes work. I said work, though, not effort.

You must have faith, gratitude and you have to step out of the past thinking that holds you anchored to your pain. You need to trust that we are amazing beings. Our minds, bodies, and ability to create will transform your life if you just let it.

I have studied the mystical, the business-minded, and the scientific. It amazed me that everyone is saying the same thing. The message is geared towards an audience that is ready and open to hearing it.

You can no longer be the victim of circumstances, blaming everything that has gone wrong in your life on people and/or situations outside of yourself. I know that sounds harsh. I know bad things happen that you never predicted. But holding onto it and making it your story, that is your fault. It is something that happened to you; it is not who you are. As long as you keep replaying the story, you will continue to create a life of struggle and heartache. It is time to see who you truly are and write a new story.

Writing Joy quest has been a JOY! Literally. To be able to dive into who we are, how we think and feel, and the journey of 2020. We all agree that it has been an interesting year. It is the beginning of worldwide change and transformation. We can focus our change, transformation on the continued sickness, political and social unrest, and division we see; or we can focus on being the best versions of ourselves. In doing this, we help create a world of healing, peace, unity, and love.

As I complete the publication process for “Joy Quest,” I want to invite you to ask for your copy early. I am taking pre-orders at a discounted price. Take the journey with me. Let’s heal ourselves and begin focusing on creating our dreams. When we have a community that is growing and changing, the world around us follows suit.

The publication date is November 1. The book’s cost is $16.95 for paperback, and I am offering a pre-order price of $8.47 (plus shipping). I am taking orders personally, and I will mail them to you directly. You will receive a signed copy with a personal message and an invitation to join the community to heal and grow together.  

Message me privately, and we will begin this journey. With covid, the publication, printing, and shipping process has slowed down. I have chosen to take a different route than most authors because I want to know the people who buy my books. Please email me and request your copy. ashelyjspurgeon@gmail.com Tell me a little about yourself. (If you want, you do not have to) I will send you an invoice, and you will receive one of the first published copies.

Let’s take a “Joy Quest: A Journey to True Happiness.”

Sell the Book You Have Dreamed of.

Have you ever considered writing a book?

Do you know why you would like to write a book?

Do you have expertise that you would like to share?

Writing a book sounds very intimidating. But with the right help can be it can be much easier than you thought. Writing a book sounds like a project that would take years. With the right help can be completed within months.

Why would you want to write a book?

Having a book set you apart as an expert in your field. When you have a book, it can open up doorways and opportunities that otherwise would not be available to you. You can get publicity from the media, be invited to speak on stage, Podcasts and YouTube Interviews, and help you create an audience that you would not have had otherwise.

But maybe you are already really busy. You think to yourself where are you going to find time to write a book? With the right help, and the right resources, accomplishing your book is much easier than you ever imagined.

Oftentimes, the hardest part about writing a book is getting started. You have so many ideas floating around your head. But you do not have the time to type them all out, maybe that’s not your forte. You may not be very good at grammar, composition, or knowing how to organize all your thoughts into a presentable package.

What would happen if you have help? Do you know that you can have a whole book completed without ever having to type a page? I am here to help you put together your thoughts into a sellable format that can take your business to the next level.

All you have to do is dictate into your notes, Word, or voice recorder, your thoughts on your topic. I will help you put them all together, transcribe your notes, organize, choose your best platform for publishing, create a cover, edit and proofread, and help you develop the book that you dreamed of but never thought was conceivable.

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If you are ready to get started on this new venture for your life and/or business contact me today. I offer a free consultation. We will talk about what your ideas are, how to organize them, get them onto paper, and create a book that will set you apart as an expert in your field. This will open doors for you that you never thought feasible before

This may be something that you dreamed of but never thought you could accomplish but working together we can make this dream a reality.

I work with people who want to produce a non-fiction book but do not have the time, skills, or know how. I have published 3 books, of my own, and have two more on the way. I have seen sales throughout the United States, Canada and the UK. This is an exciting adventure that can open up a whole new realm for you. Do not let a great idea go to waste in your mind because you do not know how. Reach out to me today. Schedule a phone call and let’s see what possibilities can open up for you.

Does feeling happy make you feel guilty?

When you do something nice for yourself do you feel like you are sacrificing from another area of your life? When you are making choices that will make you happy, do you have that nagging voice in your head asking, “what will someone else think? “

It is a good thing to be thoughtful of others, to manage our time well and to prioritized. But does it create feelings of guilt, questioning your own decisions based on the opinions of others, and steal from your joy?

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Life is meant to be fun and to feel good. We are taught that life is meant to be hard and we have to struggle to find success. I do not agree with the hard struggle. I have a successful life, I am happy, I do not feel I sacrificed things to achieve this, and I am not ruled by the opinions of others. You can have this too.

Everyone has an opportunity to achieve great things in their life. The playing field is more equal now than it has ever been. There is less room for excuses. It really does not matter where you came from, who your family is, what your background, race, sexual preference, culture, religion etc. you can be happy and find great success. No excuses! Most just do not want to step out and do what it takes to be great. To become the best version of themselves. It is easy to fail.  It takes strength and tenacity to succeed.

I said it does not have to be hard though it is not always easy either. If you want to succeed into your personal greatness you need the right mindset and you need to develop some grit to get there,

So how do you do it?

  1. Stop making excuses
  2. Set your determination and see your future as if it is happening now and become it
  3. Realize that everything you thought was holding you back is what can propel you turn it forward
  4. Everyone has something original and unique to share
  5. Stop being a victim. Be a successful survivor. You are not your painful past. That is not who you are. It is not your identity. It is something that happened to you. Pay attention to the stories you tell when you are developing new relationships. Are they stories of weakness (the victim) or stories of strength (The survivor)?
  6. Every challenge is a new opportunity. How you handle the challenges can show what your mindset is, and how hungry you are to find success in life.

When faced with a challenge some people get depressed and shut down. Instead, open your eyes. If you are not open to new opportunities, you will not see them. They are all around but if you are not open to them you will miss them.

  • Watch who you associate with, this is very important. We are most greatly influenced by the five people we spend the most time with. If your group is all broke and struggling, you will have a hard time finding financial freedom. If your group is negative and pessimistic, you will have a hard time finding optimism. If your group is underachievers, expanding and becoming the best version of yourself will seem out of reach.  
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We, everyone, are not meant to lead average lives. We are not meant to be unhappy, feeling guilt for trying to be happy, or feeling like we have to sacrifice one area of life in order to have something enjoyable in another. You can be, do, or have anything you want. You may just need some help to get onto the path to it. What do you want to do? Be a coach, write a book, speak to an audience, teach others what you have learned or just be happy and have a good life?

Any of these things, and more, are achievable. Investing in yourself with a coach will help bring you to where you want to be. It’s always helpful to have someone in your corner who has walked the path before you.

My coaching will help you develop workable goals, give you an accountability partner, and create a path to success. Contact me today to have a free 15-minute conversation that will help you see where you want to go. Everything I talk about, I have done and helped others do themselves.

Isn’t it time to create the positive momentum you desire?

Let’s talk. 15 minutes can change your life.

Let’s go from average to amazing.

Let’s go from board to exciting period let’s go from average status quo to a leader and influencer.

15-minutes that will change the course of your life.

Be Grateful for your Money Abundance

If you have money in your bank, any money in the bank, or even in your wallet, and spare change in a dish some place in your life, you are among the top 8% of the worlds wealthy. 92% of the people do not have that.

Gratitude Will Change Everything

When you consider our world from such a compressed perspective then the need for acceptance, understanding, and gratitude becomes glaringly apparent.

So therefore, it concludes that if you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead, and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of the world. Just that, doesn’t that call for some gratitude?

 If you woke up this morning with more health than illness, you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week because of illness.  

If you have money in your bank, any money in the bank, or even in your wallet, and spare change in a dish some place in your life, you are among the top 8% of the worlds wealthy. 92% of the people do not have that.

So, if you have the opportunity to think as you choose to think, to worship as you choose to worship, and you have a little bit of change in your pocket, and you have got your health, and you have someone who cares about you, then you have an awful lot to be grateful for.

Treasuring our divinity means being in a constant state of appreciation. Looking for occasions to be joyful, to be happy, to be in a state of gratitude.

Every time I find a penny, a nickel or a dime on the street and anytime I bend over and pick it up, I say “Thank you God”, as a reminder of the abundance that flows into my life when I am just walking and breathing.

Treasuring your divinity does not mean that you do not have respect for God, it means respecting the God that is always with you.

                                                                                                                                Wayne Dyer

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                This is a very long quote, I know, but it says so many important things to remember on a daily basis. We are blessed in ways we do not see when we get caught up in our lives. When we are listening to or participating in gossip, when we are watching the news, when we are letting ourselves be upset because of something someone else did. How does that serve us? How does that lead to a happy and successful life? We can choose how we wish to feel, and by choosing we are directing the path that our next hour, day, week and life will go. I choose to be happy, grateful, and joyful. Even when things to do not appear perfect at the moment, it is only a moment in time, and it will pass.

                We can deliberately make our next moments be different, we can direct the course of our lives. Sometimes it takes a reminder like what is written above. Sometimes it just takes slowing down and noticing how we are feeling and recognizing that it is a choice how to feel.

                People struggle with depression and anxiety. People get too wound up in what is going on around them and they take personal ownership of it. They accept this as the only way they can view life, but you have a choice. You can change the direction.

In the study of Dr. Joe Dispenza and the Heartmath institute, they have discovered scientifically that spending 10 minutes in gratitude changes the electromagnetic energy of the heart. It increases the bodies chemistry to increase immunities. Happy people are not just lucky. They are healthier, they attract more positive into their lives, they see more opportunities and take chances on them.  

                So, my challenge to you this week it take 10 minutes each day and focus on gratefulness. It does not have to be anything specific; you can keep it general. Just put on some soft music and your headphones and feel good for a few. As you go along, as this becomes a regular practice in your life, you begin to see or feel things that feel good to you. Practice every day for one week and keep a small notebook to journal how you feel. Write down how your days goes. You will notice a shift after only 4-5 days.

                After one week, come back here and share the alteration you are beginning to notice in your life.

  • Do you see more beauty in the world around you?
  • Did you see your first sunrise or sunset in a while? Really notice it.
  • Are your conversations changing to be more positive and upbeat?
  • Did you laugh more?
  • Did you feel more love and/or compassion towards others?
  • Did you notice that you attract more upbeat people to you?
  • Were you in a little less pain?
  • Did you sleep a little better?

Share with us what has changed. Then I encourage you to take 10- minutes a day for 30-days. When you are starting something new, focus and see it before hand how you want it to go. A phone call, a conversation, your drive-in traffic.

I look forward to hearing how your week went. Please like share, and comment.

If you want to move forward into a happy, joy filled, and productive life schedule a free call with me to set this forward momentum in your life. Click the schedule button, go to my contact page, or email me directly and use the subject “I want to be happy” ashleyjspurgeon@gmail.com