Life is an amazing adventure, or it should be. If you do not feel like yours is taking you to new places and new heights, you can ask yourself, “WHY?” Do you think that this adventure needs to be something huge and momentous? It doesn’t have to be, but it can be.
Most people have an idea of a simple joy in life. That is what they desire. Limited stress, drama, and problems. This is attainable. To pull out of the chaos, fear, depression and anxiety.
Other people desire something much larger. They want to make an impact on the world, leave a legacy, and even make a name for themselves. Neither is right or wrong. We are all unique individuals and our desires are just right for us. We should not try to compare our journey to that of another. Theirs may be much bigger or smaller than what we want. And that is ok.
But, do you even know where to start this adventure?
Let’s look at some steps you can take to begin your personal adventure. Or as I call in my upcoming book, your “Joy Quest.”
- Begin each day with a feeling of gratitude. This is really one of the most important steps. When you are thankful something it means you have received something. How do you feel when you have received something you have been wanting? Your heart feels light and happy. Your heart feels full. When you can recreate that feeling then you are in the right mode to receive more of what you want. Each day should begin this way. Before you mind is stirring over emails, texts, news and social media. It is also very simple to get into this frame of mind. In fact, it is so easy that you can do this through out your day to realign with your heart and who you are spiritually.
All you must do is take a few minutes. Sit comfortably in a quiet place and a comfortable position. Close your eyes for a few minutes and just rest in a feeling of quiet. Take a deep breath and feel the breath go straight to your heart. Breath slowly in and out and each time feel your heart expand.
Next, feel the love of your divine spirit emanating from your heart. Feel the loving energy of your spirit grow and envelope you. Then feel it expand further.
Finally, think of a time where you were happy, when you were in a beautiful place, or you felt the love of a person or pet. Find a good feeling where you were very grateful in that moment. Now bring that feeling into your heart and lock it in. Take another deep breath into your heart and see this feeling of gratitude setting itself in a place in your heart.
This is so simple, yet affective. You can do this anytime and anywhere.
- Get ahead of the emotions you do not want to experience.
When you have a thought, you have an emotion attached to it. The emotion will be a response to some past event or experience. It does not have to be a continuation though. So much of our daily life is run by our emotions from the past. But what if that does not serve who you want to be now? It does not have to be a repeat. We can rewrite it or tell a different story, instead of living the familiar past.
When you let your thoughts and emotions run their course, they can disrupt you whole day or even a week or more. In this we are living by reaction only and do not have very good control of being who we wish to be. Once we feel an emotion, if you do not take a conscious effort to work with it to our benefit, it will begin to build momentum. If this thought or experience is troubling to you, then you want to get out ahead of it, before it builds momentum.
Imagine that someone said something to you that upsets you. What do you usually do with this? You think on it more, feel sad, hurt or offended. Now it is beginning to take root. You will feel it in your gut and in your heart. As the feelings build momentum, your thoughts begin churning around it. It can be like getting stuck in a whirlpool. It is all you can think about and if you step back and look at it, you will see it growing. We do not want to get to this point. It really does not feel good.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself to stop this in it’s tracks and return to a forward momentum. The direction you wish to go in.
- Is what that person said true about you? (Probably not)
- Do they know you well enough to say something like that? (Probably not, no one knows the deepest part of you)
- Are people around you reacting based on how you have allowed them to act around you?
- Can you see deeper into them to see that maybe it is something within them, and not you, that caused this hurtful or upsetting experience? (Chances are this is the root of it)
I had an experience like this with a past co-worker. I realized once I thought about it that I was the only person in the office that she felt safe sharing her stress with. When I though about everything that was going on in her personal life it was not me that was upsetting her. I was the one she felt she could lash out at. You know ”misery loves company.”
The fact of the matter was that I would no longer let her push my buttons. I was going to react differently. I was going to feel good because I choose to and not react based on how I had in the past. Normally this would consume me for days. Now I get to it in the beginning, separate from it and not let the momentum build.
- Do one thing everyday that leads toward your dream. Especially on the days you do not feel like it. A dream does not happen on its own. It needs to be built on every day. If you feel you are stuck in an unmotivated day, that is when it is most important to push through. It does not have to be anything big, just something. If you take a day off, then you will take more. If you miss a day you can set your dream back months, or you may miss an important opportunity.
There are some mornings I do not feel like meditating. I do it anyway. I reminding myself that I will have a happier, freer flowing day if I just take ten minutes. Some days I do not feel like working. But then I sit back and remember my dream. How good the ease and flow of life I will have when it comes into fruition.
Do not rely on your friends and family to help motivate you. They will be the first to say, “Take a day off, you deserve a break.” This is where a coach is so helpful. Even when you are taking on the phone, through video, or by email, they are in the back of your mind helping to hold you accountable for what you know you should do to keep your momentum going. When I have a day where I do not feel like doing anything, I think I can write one more article, I can write one more chapter, or reach out to one more potential client. Once I have started, I feel so much better about myself. It does not have to be a giant leap, but it can lead to the next great step in your journey.
So, today I am keeping things simple. Three easy action steps to move you in the direction of your Joy Quest. This is a journey never completed, but always growing. Life is mean to be enjoyed. The choice is yours.
If you feel stuck and cannot find the first steps; or if you have taken the first steps and are not sure where to go from here, then schedule a free 30 minute call with me to see what we can do together to get your momentum heading in the right direction. Only 30-minutes of your time to begin a new life of joy, happiness and seeing your dreams manifest in your life.
If you feel that you are an old pro at this but need help creating a new plan to get to the next level then please schedule a one-on-one coaching call. We will meet once a week for four weeks to begin. Let’s kick it up and create the amazing life you were meant to live. Let’s see how we can reach your goals, manifest what you desire, create something spectacular. You have greatness within you, you just need a helping hand pulling it out.